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Wednesday, October 02, 2019

Children Are Unique Individual

Children are unique. It's so valuable to identify the  uniqueness of your child. Just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not have the same function, so likewise in a family we have children with varying personality and functions in order to make the family what it is. It is a mind blowing
mystery that God fused us into one body(Christ) while allowing us to retain our unique individuality. He uses our differences to create the various part of the one body. That means we don't need to give up on our children identity or beat them up for not behaving in our own cultural way. All the quirky and idiosyncrasies doesn't need to be flushed out of  your child before he or she can fulfill his or her destiny. It maybe that those same quirks and idiosyncrasies are part of the traits your child needs to fulfill his or her purpose.
               Each child  is formed by God with a full blown personality. Take for instance, in various families, some of us are nothing close to our siblings. This is not a by-product of nature, it is the specific design of God. Each of us is a part of a huge machine that need to function differently in order for the machine to function well. Each of us have a specific purpose to which we were created for. It must not be the same as what we would have it to be. Children respond to the world differently, some are serious, empirical, impulsive, emotional, spontaneous, energetic, methodical, and complex. We shouldn't be force to think that any of them is more useful than the other. No they are perfect in their own way, they don't have to be like each other; neither do they have to be like you or your spouse. They can simply be who God created them to be a perfect part in His perfect whole.
                   Children do not need to be the same to function the same. They do not have to be the same to be used the same. when the body is walking, both arms and legs are moving. They are not the same but used the same. In fact the motion of arms counterbalances the movement of the legs and allows for balance. In the same way your children can be completely different from each other and be similarly useful. It important your child knows this, so he or she won't be discouraged if they don't look like someone else. It is important for you to know this in order to avoid partiality or favoritism between children. It is important for extended family to know this to avoid  similar value judgement. If you to have a favorite flavor of cake, go ahead. But don't extend the preference to deciding between children

17 comments:

  1. Yes, letting children be comfortable in their individuality is so important!

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  2. this is so true! Let them be themselves and it will be awesome!

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  3. Each person is unique. Even in a single family, every person in it is going to be an individual, separate from the other. I have three sisters. We are all different. Growing up, my parents had to deal with FOUR different personalities and you cannot treat everyone the same way.

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  4. Every child, every person is unique and has their own different personality. I don't think that parents can choose between their children, if they have more.

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  5. As a preschool teacher, I agree wholeheartedly that kids are their own selves. We need to let them explore their own talents and personality and not group them into one.

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  6. I agree with you. I'm a teacher so this has been my mantra as well.

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  7. Yes..I remember my mom always said not even five fingers are same and so how can we expect kids to be like same !! We should accept kids the way they are!!

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  8. What makes each child beautiful is what makes them different. Each one should be able to shine in their own way.

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  9. I totally agree with you it good to let them be their own self.

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  10. Conformity can only stifle the flavor of life, that is manifested in each individual's unique spirit. Accept them as they are and teach them to be tolerant. Excellent post!
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  11. As a mother of two girls, I can say each child is unique and all children need the same opportunities.

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  12. I completely agree, we are all completely different and that is okay! That is what makes us, us and what makes us stand apart from everyone else. I love seeing the differences in my children and helping them grow where they'd like to.

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  13. We need to celebrate our differences and work together to make something great! If we were all the same, there would be so much we couldn't do. In my own family, my siblings and I are have some similarities but we're mostly different, this is a strength! We're able to help each other in unique ways!

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  14. This is really an eye-opening blog post. We should accept this fact that every child is unique and if we recognize this, children won't have to feel to be under pressure by their own parents.

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  15. I love this: there is beauty in variety- and this includes in children too. We should appreciate the uniqueness of each kid and not try to compare them.

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  16. having 2 kids, I so relate with this post, they are completely different and that is what I love about them. It makes them so unique!

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  17. I totally agree..Each child is unique and deserves all our love and support.

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